Whenever I feel exasperated about my inability to control others' actions, I remind myself that the need for control is a fear-based response. The thing to do, in that moment, is to ask, "What am I afraid of?"
As likely as not, I cannot exert any force against the actualization of my fear. In other words, I cannot change what is.
I try, in each moment, to be aware of my fears and discomforts--to recognize them, acknowledge them, and to follow where they lead, knowing that I have no control.
And yet, if we spread love or spread hate, perhaps we do have some control over our world after all...
